People are inconsistent. I have to remember that and remind
myself that I am included in that statement. Doing so allows me to be tolerant
in an intolerant world.
I had an interesting encounter with a fellow employee at the
community college. A simple exchange of greeting turned into a sermon, which
was totally inappropriate but got me thinking.
The good Pastor announced that there are absolutes in life
and proceeded to take a righteous path through his beliefs to support his
position. Truthfully, I was a little stunned since the conversation began with
him asking me what was new and me saying not much, it’s December and did he
hear about the earthquake in the Sedona area?
After I recovered from my surprise and really thought about
what he said, I realized I don’t think that way at all. Not just about religion
but about the over-simplified notion that there are absolutes. In my world most
issues lie on a continuum somewhere between good & bad, right & wrong,
etc. To my mind there are very few easy answers and that notion of certainty
doesn’t resonate with me.
It would be nice if we could neatly box things up, wrap them
and tie a pretty bow on it, but human behavior isn’t so easily classified and
understood. It is disheartening that so many use religion as a way to separate
and judge rather than unify and accept. Isn’t religious freedom for everyone?
What about separation of church and state? Are those easy issues with absolute
answers? Think about it.
This is the time of year when I begin to see posts on Face
Book that state, “it’s Merry Christmas, not Happy Holidays!” That is an
absolute statement and if someone wished me a Merry Christmas, I would respond
in kind. But here’s the thing, I have friends who are Jewish, friends that
celebrate Kwanzaa, Yule, Winter Solstice. When I choose a card to send, I
choose one that is inclusive and just may say Happy Holidays! I want everyone
to appreciate and enjoy what this time of year means to them and don’t see any
reason to push my personal beliefs. Isn’t that what respect is about?
I think daily about the choices I make, how they shape and
influence my life, relationships and work. I make an effort to be kind,
compassionate and loving but sometimes I fail. Sometimes, I snap at my husband,
swear in front of my daughter, find fault without fully understanding a
situation. In an absolute world these things are bad and therefore, so am I.
Who can feel good about themselves and others with perfectionism holding them
down? No one.
I hold myself to high standards and hope others do as well but their standards may be different than mine. My priorities are mine alone. Luckily, they align with friends and family but we may call them by different names. A little tolerance goes a long way but sometimes it feels good to call someone an idiot. Why? We feel better about ourselves by comparison. All the talk of brotherly love, anti-bullying campaigns, diversity and inclusion is just talk until we learn to consistently embrace the beliefs we expound. So there you have it, I just found an absolute! Because I am, after all, human and inconsistent.
Just in case you need it...a little Church Lady
I hold myself to high standards and hope others do as well but their standards may be different than mine. My priorities are mine alone. Luckily, they align with friends and family but we may call them by different names. A little tolerance goes a long way but sometimes it feels good to call someone an idiot. Why? We feel better about ourselves by comparison. All the talk of brotherly love, anti-bullying campaigns, diversity and inclusion is just talk until we learn to consistently embrace the beliefs we expound. So there you have it, I just found an absolute! Because I am, after all, human and inconsistent.
Just in case you need it...a little Church Lady
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